Which Wonder Weeks leap is best to work on sleep?
The first 2 years of your child’s life are filled with change and growth. This time is often considered the most important as it’s when rapid brain development occurs. It’s also when you may turn to The Wonder Weeks as a means of keeping tabs on these changes. But which Wonder Weeks leap is best to work on sleep?
This week we’ll work on sleep, or maybe not
Have you ever woken up to the sound of your baby crying (again) and thought to yourself, “That’s it. This week, I’m taking some action. This week we’re going to start teaching our baby sleep skills.”
Then, sometime in the early morning when your third cup of coffee starts to kick in, you find yourself second guessing the idea. Maybe you feel like things aren’t that bad yet, or you get into the, “I knew what I was getting into when I decided to have a baby,” mindset, or maybe someone told you that this wasn’t really the right time, since your baby was just about to go through a big developmental milestone, and makes a reference to The Wonder Weeks.
The Wonder Weeks Leaps
For those of you who aren’t familiar with it, The Wonder Weeks is something of a Farmer’s Almanac for babies. It was developed by the husband-and-wife team of Frans Plloji, a behavioral scientist, and Hetty van de Rijt, an educational psychologist.
The concept goes something like this: Starting at five weeks old and continuing through the 20-month mark, babies go through 10 mental development stages or “leaps” as the authors refer to them. These leaps, according to the book, take place at very specific points in a baby’s life, starting at five weeks and continuing through the 20-month mark.
“Sunny weeks,” during which baby is typically happy and agreeable are followed by “stormy weeks,” during which baby’s fussy and inconsolable due to the neurological development, and then comes the “wonder week” where the new skill or development is mastered, and baby goes back to being “sunny” again.
Many parents swear by it
Many, and I mean many parents absolutely swear by this book and its popular companion app. (The original book has sold over 2 million copies across 25 languages.) Some people even claim that it tracks their little one’s development to the day as opposed to the week. Are you one of them?
Other parents will tell you that the science it’s built on is flawed, and that what the authors are doing is essentially a form of pediatric astrology, making vague predictions based on norms and averages, and reassuring its followers that good things are perpetually just over the horizon.
Some background info
Here are a couple of things to consider for you data-driven types. The 1992 study[1] that The Wonder Weeks is founded on, used a sample size of just 15 participants and relied almost exclusively on questionnaires filled in by the mothers as opposed to direct observation from the researchers. Dr. Plooij’s counter argument for the small sample size, stating that if you find a behavior in two individuals, “then you already have proof that the phenomenon exists and is not due to luck or chance,” doesn’t do much to shore up his credibility.
In the mid 1990s, Dr. Plooij’s Ph.D. student, Dr. Carolina de Weerth, attempted to replicate the findings[2] from the original study with an even smaller sample size of four babies, and failed to reach the same conclusions. Dr. de Weerth claims that Plooij pressured her to find correlations that supported his original research, and when she refused, he attempted to prevent the publication of her findings. (A claim that Plooij denies.) Plooij’s contract with the University of Groningen wasn’t renewed following the incident, and he subsequently left academia altogether.
Suffice it to say, there’s still controversy and debate over its legitimacy. But hey, that’s nothing new when it comes to the world of parenting. Is anything ever written in stone when it comes to babies? If it helps you, it helps you.
Take your mental health boosts where you can
If you, as a parent, take comfort in being able to predict when your baby will be cranky, I think that’s just fine. If it helps you through a prolonged period of crying to think, “This is just her developing as she’s supposed to,” then high fives all around. Parents need all the support they can get, and I say take your mental health boosts where you can find them.
But there is a downside
The potential downside I see is that some parents might put too much stock in the accuracy of the book or the app and develop some unnecessary concerns if things don’t go according to schedule. Because if there’s one thing parents don’t need, it’s unrealistic expectations based on inaccurate research, telling them that their little one has failed to hit a developmental milestone on time.
As Theodore Roosevelt once said, “comparison is the thief of joy”. And if there’s one thing I know in my line of work, it’s that every child is unique. There are no ‘one-size fits all’ approaches when it comes to children or parenting or life.
And that brings us to the reason why I wanted to speak on the whole Wonder Weeks subject today in the first place.
At what point in a baby’s development should you start putting a priority on their sleep?
When should you work on sleep?
Is it best to wait until after some of these milestones have been cleared?
If so, which ones? What can happen if we get started too early or too late?
So let me just state this unequivocally. Outside of a diagnosable health issue, there is absolutely no “wrong time” to teach your baby to sleep well.
Right before a “sunny week,” right at the tail end of a “stormy week,” or smack dab in the middle of a “wonder week,” are all perfect times to get the ball rolling. There’s no developmental milestone, no specific week, no time in a baby’s life that could be considered the wrong time to get them sleeping well.
Adequate sleep is essential to health and wellbeing
I’m confident that you’ll never find a pediatrician who’ll contradict me on that statement. It’s not controversial among the scientific community or medical professionals. We’re all in agreement that adequate sleep is essential to the health and well-being of everyone in the family unit, and that teaching your baby some independent sleep skills is safe and effective, whether it’s week five or week fifty five.
You certainly don’t want to wait until the Wonder Weeks are over, especially when you consider that sleep is vital in forming the neural pathways that make development possible. If you want your child to reach their developmental potential, good sleep is certainly the way to go about it.
You may hold off at times, but don’t delay sleep skills for an upcoming milestone
There are situations where you’re best to hold off working on sleep for a few nights. If you’re going on holiday within a week or so for example. And I tend to recommend that you get started on a night when you don’t have to work early the next day (night one can sometimes be a little on the turbulent side).
But you should never delay your plans to help your child develop their sleep skills due to some kind of upcoming milestone. Those are going to keep coming, week after week, and your baby really will have a happier time progressing through them if they’re getting the sleep they need.
So on the question on which Wonder Weeks leap is it best to work on sleep, the answer is all of them.
If your child is not getting the rest they need, then working on sleep is definitely the best call you could make. Regressions and developmental progressions will happen, but the right time to work on sleep is now.
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[1]Hedwig H.C. Van De Rijt-Plooij PhD & Frans X. Plooij PhD (1992) Infantile regressions: Disorganization and the onset of transition periods
[2] Weerth, C. D. (1998). Emotion-related behaviors in infants: a longitudinal study of patterns and variability. s.n.